They can become over whelming especiaslly dependant on the effort  and emotion that he has personally imparted to this particular scenario.

we tend too mistake the irrational outburst of behaviour as an imediate over reaction to what is happening at the time,  yet we forget that this can be his debilatating hurt showing through.  He is stuck, he doesnt know how to process where he is at, and yes his rational self (the one that has learnt to adapt to  life and the curve balls that it occassionally throws) is screaming at  him to get control.

But its too  late .....his mind is racing a million miles an hour filling his self with irrational scenarios of what is happening, or what others are thinking.  He is emotionally cornored, the panic is starting to show!!!

before he knows it he has spun into "attack mode"'the leathel combination of the Aspie Genious and the forked toungue of hatred.

 

This is where he will attack with full throttle untill he can see a way to escape, as soon as that opening presents he will take it.....oblivious at times of what he has said.  You will find him trying to retreat into his safe place......where he may numb his mind and reduce  the  thouught process  of what has occured.  He wont want too visit it later and he wont want too  or cant remember what he has said, but over time we too can help  him too overcome  this strumbling block to recongnise that damage that was also done to him, ways that  he could handle that situation  when it arises again (and it will ).

Every  experience for all of us is a learning curb, for our Adult Aspies feel things more intensly at times  then we realise.